No. Many couples come in because they still care deeply about each other and want to address things before the disconnection grows further. Often, they’ve noticed more tension, repeated conflicts, or difficulty understanding each other and want support shifting those patterns before resentment builds.

This isn't the right fit for couples currently in acute crisis, experiencing ongoing high conflict, or where there are safety concerns, including any form of abuse or violence. If that's where you are, I'm happy to help you find a referral better suited to that level of support.

I’ve been a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 2012. I’m Level 2 trained in the Gottman Method and integrate attachment-based and Narrative approaches into my work.

Many of the couples I work with are high-functioning, thoughtful people who have tried to work through the same patterns on their own and are ready for more support. My approach is collaborative and active: I help you understand not just what keeps happening between you, but why, so you can start responding to each other differently.

No. I’m not here to decide who’s right or wrong. I’m here to help both of you understand what’s happening between you and find a different way of relating, so each person feels heard, understood, and able to show up more clearly.

That’s very common. Not everyone grew up in environments, families, or communities where emotions felt safe, welcomed, or modeled in healthy ways. Some people learned early on to shut down, avoid conflict, or keep emotions to themselves because expressing them led to criticism, being sent away, being told not to cry, or feeling like their emotions were too much or a burden to others. Part of the work is understanding those experiences with more compassion so you can stop interpreting them as a lack of care or a lack of effort. We go at a pace that feels doable and build comfort with putting feelings into words.

Sometimes one person grew up talking openly about emotions while the other learned to stay quiet or focus on problem-solving. It’s one of the most common dynamics I see, and it often runs deeper than personality. In some families and cultures, talking things through is how closeness is built. In others, care shows up as handling things, staying steady, or not adding to someone else’s burden. Neither is wrong, but together they can create a loop: the more one of you reaches for connection, the more the other pulls back or tries to fix things, and each style can start to feel like a verdict: “you don’t care” or “you’re too much.” These differences can feel even bigger when you come from different cultural backgrounds, because each of you may be measuring the other against a different idea of what a good partner does.

In therapy, we get curious about what care and closeness meant in each of your families, slow the loop down, help each of you say what’s underneath your reaction, and build a way of meeting in the middle that fits both of you.

Culture shapes how we understand relationships, often more than we realize. In our work together, we look at where each of you learned what it means to be a partner, how family, religion, and community show up in the relationship, and where your expectations don’t line up. This can matter especially in intercultural relationships, but every family has its own culture, so it’s relevant for any couple. I don’t treat any one cultural or family style as the standard; we focus on what feels aligned for the two of you.

That’s something we can make space for in therapy. Some couples come in wanting to repair the relationship, while others feel more uncertain and are trying to understand whether the relationship can shift sustainably. My role isn’t to decide for you—it’s to help you better understand what’s happening between you, what patterns are keeping you stuck, and whether a different way of relating feels possible.